At the time I remember thinking that was a jerk thing to say.
My shifts at Damon's throughout college affirmed my high school thinking. It was a jerk thing to say.
As a server, I dealt with people that were less than pleasant. Sure, there were a few nice souls, but I still have barbecue sauce drenched nightmares of guests yelling because I brought them barbecue sauce, or I didn't bring enough barbecue sauce or I filled their iced tea too much. Shudders.
|Some people, like this monkey, can be a real ass.|
The internet has changed that all. A 30 second post can shame a guest or get a staffer fired. A short tweet can earn you a comped steak or unleash the internet hounds on you.
|Applebee's eating, non tipping Pastor.|
For the record, both parties were wrong. The Pastor (which is a woman) was wrong for being a cheap jerk (more on that later) and the server was wrong for posting it with the customer's personal information, a not cool move. Also not cool if she signed a social media policy.
Also for the record, I have no problem with public shaming - it seems to be the only thing that works these days, but it is hard to completely support the server if she violated policy *and* the personal info thing. Maybe it is the previous restaurant manager in me coming out, but the server should have known better.
Now the Pastor, she should have really known better.
|If you can't afford to tip, I suggest take out.|
Here is the secret part, servers have to tip out based on their sales, *not* their tips. So if a server has a night of cheap skates, they are losing money by waiting tables.
|Two Broke Girls is hilarious. Especially if you were a server.|
My manager later came up to me to share that the family confided in him that they could only afford to go out once every few months and wanted to have a special night.They appreciated my kindness, especially with the root beer and endless loaves of bread. Wow.
Maybe the best way to look at tipping it to listen to the immortal words of Mr. Patrick Swayze in the motion picture Roadhouse.